Still single after all these years? If you have never found the proverbial “one” – then there may be a reason that you are still alone. Maybe you have a bad attitude when it comes to meeting the right person – or maybe you’re afraid. Let’s look at five possible reasons that you haven’t marched up the aisle to wedding bliss (yet).
Reason You Are Still Single #1: You Have a Rotten Attitude
Sure, your heart may have been ripped from your chest and danced upon a half dozen times in the past, but you cannot allow your previous “luggage” to come across when you are trying to find your soul mate. Being negative is an instant turnoff; it’s worse than onion-breath, in fact. You’re not alone. Nearly anyone on the dating scene can tell you a horror story or two, but savvy ones let the bad times roll right off their back – and they get over it, and move on. Think of bad attitudes like this. If you’re in a room full of people, are you drawn to the person who is laughing, having a good time, or to the one sitting in the corner with a scowl on his or her face? People want to be with people that are fun – so remember to keep those negative experiences to yourself – at least until you’ve gone out with someone for awhile, and even then, some tales are best left untold.
Reason You Are Still Single #2: You’re Afraid of Commitment
This is one of the biggest fears for men, and many women are likewise afraid of settling down and the stigma that it brings. Many want to ‘have their cake and eat it, too’, while others just fear that settling down makes them old. Newsflash: every moment you are alive, you are getting older. Don’t you want someone to settle down with, share your life with, and to grow old with? It’s okay if you don’t. But letting your fear of commitment rule your dating persona is the best way to ensure that you’ll always be a bridesmaid (or groomsman) and never a bride or groom.
Reason You Are Still Single #3: You’re Fearful of Online Dating
Recent surveys show that one in five relationships now starts online. Online dating is a great way to meet new people, and it can be a refreshing change from the club or bar scene. Online dating allows you to meet people all around the globe, broadening your horizons, and opening you up to people that you would have never otherwise have met. Some people think of online dating as a last resort, reserved only for losers. Millions of happy couples, however, can prove them wrong!
Reason You Are Still Single #4: You’re Not over Your Ex
If you have just ended a relationship that was meaningful to you, it is natural to take some time to recuperate and allow yourself to heal before jumping back into the game. Many people find that they end back up on the dating scene much too fast, not allowing the lessons that they learned from their previous relationship to sink in. Once you have had a few months to spring back to your old self, go forward. The problem arises when a particularly hard break-up causes you to stay off your game too long, turning you bitter and affecting your future relationships. Keep in mind what your mother may have told you: you have to kiss a lot of toads before you meet Prince Charming or Cinderella.
Reason You Are Still Single #5: You Are Needy or Picky
Two vices will definitely keep you in the single’s lane for the foreseeable future: neediness and pickiness. People who are lonely tend to latch on to others too quickly (even those who are not compatible for them), and this is neediness in its finest form. Perhaps you have ‘given up’ on finding the right person and just plan on making it work with whoever will love you back. The flip side of the needy individual is the picky individual. These people will find faults where there are none, and set the bar way too high for any potential mate to meet. There must be a fine line between not ‘settling’ for just ‘whatever’ and having a strict checklist of what a mate must have, do, or be. Finding that middle ground is the key to finding a wonderful person to spend your life with!